Reframing with NLP For Enhanced Happiness Self Help Articles | November 4 Cheap Custom College Jerseys Online , 2005 Have you ever considered that the way in which you frame your life experiences has been a way in which orchestrated how your experience was? This article is all about how to use the notion of reframing for creating more and more well-being in life and gives practical tools that anyone can use today to enhance your awareness of this phenomena.
I used to work for the Independent National Newspaper in Canary Wharf, London. I can remember in the build up to Christmas, my department was having a large and expensive new computer system installed because the newspaper was being relaunched, it was when Andrew Marr and Rosie Boycott were becoming joint editors, I digress. The system was being put in just before Christmas, but it was a massive task Cheap Custom College Jerseys For Sale , with numerous issues & overruns. As Christmas approached, there were still a number of teething problems, which led to stretched relations between the system supplier and the newspaper staff.
At one meeting about the integration of the system, my director had been trying to get more time investment from the installation company, only to be told that their people werent going to be available on Christmas day. My director was frustrated and furious, asking What are you doing thats more important than sorting out our system!? Without hesitating Cheap Custom College Jerseys From China , the guy from the installation company said Delivering Christmas hampers to the elderly. The impact was immediate; everyone in the room started laughing & my director joined them, realising that hed perhaps been a bit unreasonable. Everyone knew that the story about the elderly wasnt true, but that didnt matter the statement had changed his perception of the situation, instantly, & he started behaving more reasonably.
Changing the contextual frame:
There was an advertisement for the Guardian newspaper, which showed a set of still photographs arranged in a particular action sequence. The photographs showed a large framed man with very little hair on his head Cheap Custom College Jerseys China , wearing jeans and boots, running along a pathway with a real purpose.
In the first frame he is running towards an elderly lady; in the second frame, you see him knock her violently into the street; in the third frame you see him make his escape, obviously and seemingly this is another thug terrorising the elderly.
Then, when you turn the page, you are presented with some wider angle shots. In the wide-angle shots Cheap Custom College Jerseys , you see the elderly lady casually walking beside a building that has building works being carried out upon it and where a cement mixer is about to topple from a scaffold. An alert pedestrian notices the situation and heroically runs towards the lady, pushing her clear of the building area. A moment later, the cement mixer falls to the ground in the spot where the lady was standing. The initially perceived thug has in fact saved her life.
By changing the frame, the creators of the advertisement had changed the context of the mans actions. Suddenly, what was perceived as typically criminal then became valiant and altruistic. His actions were transformed in a moment as they were reframed. I am sure you know of many other examples of this.
One of the presuppositions of NLP and something that fascinates and tests me, is that every behaviour is useful or valuable in some context. Upon learning and reading about this in the embryonic days of my learning Cheap Custom Jerseys Online , I did do my best to do the opposite! I wracked my brains for things that I just could not reframe. Of course, I could not do so for long. Its just a matter of stretching your brain and finding a context that makes it useful; I have not always found this easy. This process is referred to as context reframing.
Every behaviour is useful in the right context:
Now here is a challenge for you. For any behaviour, no matter how frustrating or apparently without use or value, see if you can find a context where its useful. Once you find such a context, a subsequent act of presenting the behaviour in the new context is reframing it. If it was originally a behaviour that was treated very seriously or was problematic, you may then also want to think about adding humour or a playfulness in the way it is re-presented;
Firstly Cheap Custom Jerseys For Sale , identify a complaint, either about yourself or someone else, a simple structured to begin with, for example; Im too [x]. or Shes too [y]. (Eg. Im too impatient, Hes too selfish., Shes too messy.)
Next up Cheap Custom Jerseys From China , ask yourself In what contexts would the characteristic being complained about have value andor usefulness?
Thirdly, create several answers to this question, and then craft it into a reframe.
For example:
Im too impatient
Example answer: I bet youre quick-thinking in an emergency.
Shes too messy
Example answer Shed be good to have around if we were trying to make our home look like it had been burgled. (I dont like to be too serious!)
Hes too selfish
Example answer: Weve had so many problems with people not taking care of themselves, its often good to make sure you look after yourself to be in a better position to help others .
Now, I know these are a bit lame with some of my own tongue in cheek-iness added, but they dont have to be that useful at this stage; its more important that you give yourself the freedom to be creative so your brain gets the pattern of what youre doing. Whats more Cheap Custom Jerseys China , when you have to do that and develop better reframes for yourself, your learning is far more comprehensive than if I were to spoon feed you responses to regurgitate.
The next step is to come up with reframes for any complaints that you (or others) have about yourself. This can be a lot of fun if you do it with someone else. (ie. you